Positively Present Picks : August 5, 2016

“What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Links-I-Love    
On Moments : love the concept of this new Etsy time capsule shop! 

Love as Generosity : a thought-provoking School of Life piece

Alice in Wonderland Necklace* : such a beautiful, simple statement

A Checklist for Everyday : Great ideas for things to do regularly

Ready for Autumn? : it's only August, I know, but I'm so ready for it

No More Excuses* : I need this poster in my life ASAP!

10 Crucial Reasons Why You Should Chill Out : it's good for your health

Happiness + Positivity Blogs : so happy to be included in this :)

Girl Talk Pen Set* : cute little uplifting pens perfect for note-taking

Learn Something New! : the 25 best websites to learn something new online

How to Eliminate Self-Doubt : 'cause it really does hold you back from so much

Unsubscribe* : email anxiety + stress? this sounds like a must-read book!

Release Cynicism + Judgment : that's where you'll find true connection

Pins! Pins! Pins! : I've been growing my collection + here's my wish list 

Positive People* : I absolutely love this inspiring positivity quote

 

Listening

Listen to this playlist on YouTube.

"Scars to Your Beautiful" — Alessia Cara
"Light Me Up" — Ingrid Michaelson
"Patient Man" — Racing Glaciers
"Bad Decisions" — Two Door Cinema Club
"Faint of Heart" — Tegan & Sara
"First Light"— Dustin Tebbutt
"You & I" — Kennedi
"No Care" — Daughter
"Every Single Second" — XY & O
"Hey Child" — Korbee

 

Reading

Check out my reading list on GoodReads.
 

Harry Potter and the
Order of the Phoenix*
J.K. Rowling

Addiction Is the Symptom*
Rosemary Ellsworth Brown

Gratitude*
Dani DiPirro (that's me!)

  

I write books too! Check it out...

The Positively Present Guide to Life*
Dani DiPirro

Stay Positive: Daily Reminders
from Positively Present*
Dani DiPirro 

 

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5 Ways to Connect with Your Creativity

 

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Do you ever feel like you're not really connecting with life the way you should? Do you ever feel a bit unfulfilled? If so, you're not alone. A lack of fulfillment can be caused by many things, but one cause that impacts many people without them realizing it is a lack of creativity in their lives. Creativity might not seem like an essential aspect of life (especially if you don't have a creative career), but creativity helps us avoid stagnation and boredom. It helps us see the world from a fresh perspective, and exploring creative outlets can positively impact mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing. 

Creativity is not just about artistic expression, of course. There are so many things you can create: good ideas, stimulating conversation, delicious meals, strong relationships, etc. While these things are worthwhile, there's something to be said for the art of making something in the traditional artistic sense. There's something uniquely satisfying about paintbrushes swiping across canvas, clay being molded by hands, a sketchbook teeming with doodles, or fingers flying over a keyboard in pursuit of that perfectly written sentence. Though it might seem unessential, connecting with your inner artist is incredibly effective for mindfulness, positivity, and overall fulfillment. In fact, it's vital for your happiness. 

You might be thinking: But I'm not creative! I have no artistic ability! How can I connect with my inner artist if I'm not a creative person? And I'm here to tell you: you are a creative person. And, in case you couldn't hear me: YOU ARE A CREATIVE PERSON.

How do I know? I know because we are all creative. As Picasso famously said, "Every child is an artist. The problem is staying an artist when you grow up." You might not always feel creative (even if you're stereotypically "creative" or work in an artistic field), but there is still a childlike artist inside of you. And connecting with that creative aspect of yourself can have some major benefits. Don't believe me? Give some of these ideas a try and see how you feel! 

 

1 / GIVE IT A TRY (NO JUDGMENT!)

First and foremost, you have to give it a try. This is the hardest part of creativity -- allowing yourself to just try and see what happens. Choose any medium you like -- writing, drawing, painting, photography, etc. -- but pick one and go for it. You don't have to invest in any fancy materials or equipment. Just grab a pen, paper, or your computer and start making something. Block off 30 minutes on your calendar at some point this week to just get creative. And, while doing this, try your absolute hardest to refrain from judging yourself. It's hard, I know. Our adult brains are equipped to critique and assess and put things into "good" or "bad" categories, but try your absolute best not to do this. The point of creativity isn't to make something that other people will appreciate; the point is to experience the joy of making something. 

 

2 / SIGN UP FOR AN ONLINE OR IRL CLASS

Last week, I took a children's book illustration class at Strathmore Music Hall. It really pushed me outside of my comfort zone, and I had a chance to work with materials that I never work with and come up with a story I never would have considered on my own. Getting out of your comfort zone is key when it comes to creativity (especially if you already work in a creative field), and taking classes can really help you see and do things in new way. While IRL classes are great, I've also had wonderful creative experiences with self-paced online classes, like those from Nicole's Classes, Skillshare, or Atly. Signing up (and paying!) for a class makes it more likely that you'll actually create something, and that accountability can be crucial when you're struggling to connect with your inner artist. 

 

3 / DO SOMETHING ENTIRELY DIFFERENTLY

As I mentioned, getting out of your comfort zone is so important for stimulating creativity. A great way to do this is by doing something you do all the time -- taking notes in a meeting, snapping pics for Instagram, writing in a journal -- in a completely different way. For example, instead of taking bullet point notes, try drawing what you see and hear. Or, instead of simply snapping photos with your phone, get out your camera (or borrow one) and try taking photos that way. Or, rather than putting pen to paper at the end of the day, try using magazine scraps to make a collage of how you felt that day. It doesn't matter what you do, only that you do it in a different way to spark your creativity. 

 

4 / START A CREATIVE JOURNAL 

Speaking of journals, starting a creative journal is an excellent way to corral all of that creativity in one place. You can create a very specific type of journal (like a hand-written gratitude journal) or you can have a broad creative journal, in which you can write, draw, paint, collage, paste photos, etc. The journal doesn't have to be fancy -- in fact, the less fancy, the better. Whatever medium(s) you choose for your journal, it should be a place where you can get creatively messy. The fewer limitations, the better. Your creative journal should be a place to express yourself in whatever way you feel like it, without judgment or hesitation. 

 

5 / TAKE ADVANTAGE OF RESOURCES

We touched on this point a bit in #2, but it's important that you remember two things: (1) you don't need fancy things or a lot of money to be creative, and (2) there are so, so many good resources (many of them free!) to help you connect with your creativity. For example, you can look up drawing tutorials (or almost any kind of tutorial!) on YouTube. You can also find great inspirational talks on there, if you're struggling with creative motivation. Or, for more in-person inspiration, check out books from the library on art or creativity (this is one of my favorites!). There are so many resources available for connecting with your creative side, but it's up to you to put them to good use! 

 

Remember: even if you don't always feel like a creative person, YOU ARE. And you'll miss out on a lot of inspiration, exploration, and fulfillment if you choose to ignore the creative aspect of your life. Give yourself the incredible feeling of making something just to make it -- with no agenda, no judgment. It's incredibly gratifying, and it will show you things about yourself that you never knew you never knew (Pocahontas reference!). Now get out there and create something amazing! 

 

StickerApp
Today's post was sponsored by StickerApp, an amazing resource for channeling your creativity in the form of stickers, labels, and decals. With StickerApp, it's incredibly easy to print custom stickers -- and you can get a 20% discount until August 31, 2016 by using the code DIPIRRO20! [Update: the stickers turned out amazing! Here's a pic I snapped of them for Instagram!]

 

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Positively Present Picks : July 29, 2016


July Favorites! Check out the video above (or click here if you can't see it).

 

Quote-of-the-week

“If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit."

Banksy

 

Links-I-Love    
Emotional Inheritance : wow, this was a fascinating read! 

Make Your Own Rules : I'm not a rule-follower so I loved this

Humpback Whale Spraying a Rainbow : so beautiful + majestic

Eevee Beanie* : if you play Pokemon go, you know Eevee is the cutest ;)

7 Body-Positive Phrases You Should Get Comfortable With : yes!  

Quotes that Show Life from a Difference Perspective : switch your viewpoint

Stuck in Your Comfort Zone? : here are some ways to break free

Alice Art Print* : I absolutely love this Alice print. need it!!

8 Reasons to Start Self-Care Now : self-love = the best love

Broke, Single, + Happier Than Ever : and how you can be happier too

StickerApp : use code (DIPIRRO20) for 20% off custom stickers! yas!

Desire : a beautifully written article on figuring out what you want

The Difference Between Happiness + Joy : very thought-provoking stuff

Pinterest Board Updates : I refreshed my Pinterest page + I love it :)

Being Nice : this free printable is so adorable + inspiring

 

Listening

Listen to this playlist on YouTube.

"Cold Water" — Major Lazer
"Leave" — Sea Offs
"Unstoppable" — The Score
"The Forests of Time" — H1987
"Dreamstate" — Stonefox
"Wild"— Troye Sivan ft. Alessia Cara
"BWU" — Tegan & Sara
"Too Good" — Jasmine Thompson
"Bleeding Heart" — Regina Spektor
"You Don't Get Me High Anymore" — Phantogram

 

Reading

Check out my reading list on GoodReads.
 

Addiction Is the Symptom*
Rosemary Ellsworth Brown

Ten Timid Ghosts*
Jennifer O'Connell

Harry Potter and the
Order of the Phoenix*
J.K. Rowling

  

I write books too! Check it out...

The Positively Present Guide to Life*
Dani DiPirro

Stay Positive: Daily Reminders
from Positively Present*
Dani DiPirro 

 

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Why You Need Lower Expectations

 

Expectation

 

Now that I've started making my own YouTube videos, I've been spending even more time than normal watching online videos, and last week I stumbled across Jenna Marbles' "Why Low Expectations Are Good." At first I thought it sounded a tad negative -- after all, shouldn't we set high expectations? But as I watched, I realized she made some pretty amazing and thought-provoking points about expectations.

"Having no or low expectations is one of the most powerful things you can do -- if you can use it to your advantage," Jenna says, and, as I watched the video and listened to her talk about goals, expectations, and relationships, I realized just how right she is. Having low expectations might sound like a bad thing, as if you're settling for less than you deserve or willing to put up with others' (or your own) bad behavior, but it's actually one of the very best ways to stay positively present. 

 

LOW EXPECTATIONS + WORK

In the video, Jenna says, "There's a difference between goals, standards, and expectations. You can set any amount of goals you want, as high as you want, and you can work hard to achieve those goals. Your expectation of that outcome of that work and whatever you're working towards needs to be low or none whatsoever. Working hard toward your goals while having no expectation of what the outcome of that might be allows you to live your life completely without fear of failure." 

When you set a goal or start a project, it's actually a good idea to have low expectations. This doesn't mean that you don't want it to work out or you won't work hard toward your goal. It simply means you won't be focusing excessively on the outcome. Not focusing so much on the future will give you the freedom to be completely in the present moment. When you're in the present, you're less fearful and you're willing to take the (calculated) risks that often lead to great success. 

"As long as you're working hard and applying yourself the best you can," Jenna says, "you have no control over what happens in the end. The only thing you have control over is what you have control over." When it comes to work, you have to just do the best you can and let go of what you think the outcome should be, and the only way you can do it that is by releasing all expectations. 

 

LOW EXPECTATIONS + RELATIONSHIPS

It might seem like low expectations are exactly what you don't want when it comes to relationships, but, as Jenna notes (and I've also personally found to be true and wrote about in this article), expectations often get in the way of our relationships. We should, of course, have standards. We should know what we'd like in a partner or friend, and we should never tolerate mistreatment or abuse. But standards -- the required levels of quality we want in our relationships -- are different from expectations -- the beliefs that something will (or should) happen in the future. 

Again, this goes back to staying present. When we don't focus on expectations, we are in the moment. We can focus on what's happening now and determine if our current relationship is what we want. On the flip side, if we're spending tons of time expecting things from others (or feeling let down when they don't meet our expectations), we're not living in the moment. We're focused on the future or the past, and that can really hold us back from enjoying, and mindfully interacting with, others.

This can be especially important when it comes to meeting new people. I really love Jenna's magpie analogy for new relationships:    

Meeting new people and starting new relationships is a lot like being a magpie, the bird that likes shiny things. You're flying around, looking for some shiny things. Ooh, shiny thing! So you go down there. Oh. It's a bottle cap. Okay, that's cool. I'm gonna just keep flying around, looking for shiny things. Oh! What did I find? Kim Kardashian's engagement ring. It's beautiful. It's a diamond. I really like it. Sometimes I find I find crap... but does that mean I can't find a diamond? No! I'm a magpie! I'm gonna look for more shiny things.

The people that you meet in your life are shiny things. Treat them all like shiny things. Then use your little bird claws and bird beak and bird brain to figure out if they're a diamond or a bottle cap. Then you can decide which ones you want to take into your nest.

You don't need to be disappointed by people if you have no expectations of them. When you meet someone, you don't even know them. They could be a bottle cap. They could be the foil that wrapped up a hotdog. Or, they could be a really cool diamond. You don't know until you use your little bird mouth and figure out what it is. 

Of course it's difficult not to have expectations of people when you first meet them. You've got a lifetime of experiences with other people tucked in your mind and, as humans, we try to figure people out quickly using whatever knowledge we have so we can assess whether they're friend or foe. But going into every new relationship you have with no expectations is one of the best ways to create new, positive relationships -- and to not be disappointed by the ones that don't work out. 

 

LOW EXPECTATIONS + BIG EVENTS

When when it comes to big events -- weddings, birthdays, holidays, etc. -- expectations often take the wheel and drive us directly to Disappointmentville. Have you ever reflected back on a special day (your birthday or a holiday, maybe) and felt let down when the day was over, even if it was a perfectly great day? There's a difference between feeling sad that the big day is over and feeling disappointed because, even if all went according to plan, it didn't quite live up to your expectations. 

Guess what? No day, no matter how wonderful, will ever live up to the picture-perfect moments in your mind. Reality is never as wonderful as imagination. (Yes, that sounds negative, but it's true!). When you experience disappointment after a perfect-on-paper day, those feelings are a side effect of expectations literally stealing your joy. 

When you go into something with super high expectations, it will never live up to what you imagined, no matter how great it is. That's why it's a great idea to take this advice from Jenna:

Every birthday that you have, assume that you're going to lay on your couch and watch Netflix. Everything that you do that's better than that is really exciting and great. And you're grateful and you're happy and everything's wonderful. 

If you want to have an amazing experience, set your expectation level to zero. That way, whatever happens will be absolutely amazing and wonderful. And anything that doesn't go perfectly according to plan will be no big deal because you had no expectation that it would go any other way than the way it's going. Low expectations = absolute acceptance = more opportunities for joy. 

 

LOW EXPECTATIONS + SELF LOVE

Having low expectations for yourself  is actually an important act of self-love. It opens you up to new experiences, new ways of thinking, and the opportunity to truly and honestly love who you are -- no matter what. Jenna explains the limits of expectations perfectly when she says,

When you have certain expectations for yourself, you limit your choices. And you limit what you can do in your life by what you've already set as what you want. People get stuck in their thinking and they refuse to see all of the options beside them because they're stuck in their expectations of their life. If I do X, I'll get Y, when, in reality, if you do X, you could get any other letter in the alphabet -- including X again!

Life is crazy. It's filled with ups and downs, and tons of surprises. When it comes to how you think about yourself and the expectations you have, you need to have high standards, aim for positive goals, but let the expectations go. Expectations are limitations. When you're open to being someone other than what you think you're supposed to be (either because you believe it or because someone else / society told you to believe it), your the possibilities for your life -- and who you are -- become endless. As Jenna says, "Be open and don't have this concrete path in your life because you'll miss all the opportunities to be a different, better you."

 

If you want to watch the full video, you'll find it below. Or you can click here to watch it on YouTube. 

 

 

 

 

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Positively Present Picks : July 22, 2016


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Quote-of-the-week

“There is no magical version of you waiting in the future.
You are here. Use the magic you have now."

Heather Havrilesky

 

Links-I-Love    
Get Happier : the key is to focus on what makes you miserable

Lemonade Background : get inspired by this desktop background

The Only Expert on Your Dreams is You : so incredibly true

Warhol Prints* : how cool would a wall filled with these be?!

Your Personality Isn't Fixed : yes, you can change (if you want to!)

11 Inspirational Blogs That'll Change Your Life : so honored to be featured :)

Anxiety Magazine Covers : these cracked me up. so relatable. 

Where There's Stress, There's a Story : so what's your story? 

Mini Bags! : this trend makes me happy. tiny things are so cute.

CAUSEBOX : love this box filled with socially conscious products

Positively Orange Dress* : so perfect for the new brand look!

Finding the Courage to Quit : sometimes it's time to let it go

Make Travel Delays More Enjoyable : waiting? try these ideas

EmojiCap : I don't wear hats, but I would wear one of these

What Matters Is Saying Yes : wow. this quote is really powerful.

10 Virtues for the Modern Age : all of these are so, so important!

Choosing Curiosity Over Fear : Elizabeth Gilbert's wise words

Rainbow Heart Pin : what a cute, colorful little rainbow pin 

Anxiously Searching for Life's Purpose? : then you should read this

 

Listening

Listen to this playlist on YouTube.

"Here with Me" — The Killers
"Wildwood" — Fleurie
"Who We Are" — Plasi
"Rise" — Katy Perry
"Must Be Good" — I Said Yes
"Make Me"— Britney Spears
"No Complaints" — FatherDude
"Sensations" — Elohim
"Lion" — Kacy Hill
"Keep Breathing" — Ingrid Michaelson

 

Reading

Check out my reading list on GoodReads.
 

Addiction Is the Symptom*
Rosemary Ellsworth Brown

Harry Potter and the
Order of the Phoenix*
J.K. Rowling

  

I write books too! Check it out...

The Positively Present Guide to Life*
Dani DiPirro

Stay Positive: Daily Reminders
from Positively Present*
Dani DiPirro 

 

Links marked with asterisks are affiliate links. If you click on them and purchase something, I receive a commission. There is no additional cost to you if you use these links, and I will never share links for products I haven't or wouldn't purchase myself. For more information on affiliate links, please visit the Terms of Use page.