Positively Present Picks : September 9, 2016


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Quote-of-the-week

"The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely."

C.G. Jung

 

Links-I-Love    
The Secret to Staying Motivated : even when you're not seeing results...

Introvert Hangovers : these are so, so real; I get them all the time! 

Making a Fuck That! List : love this concept via Gala Darling

Where Abundance Comes From : Raptitude always has such wise words

Don't Panic! : check out these ideas to reduce anxiety + fear

Things I Didn't Buy : I really need to start keeping a list like this!

The Signs of Internet Burnout : why you might need to take a break

Love + Self-Love : this video explains the link between them so well

Venture Shorts Podcast : so honored to be interviewed on here

Sorry Syndrome : are you apologizing too much? time to stop that!

The Capacity to Be Alone : oooh, this Osho quote is so, so good

Stop Thinking, Start Acting : it's the only way to create real change

The Bright Side of Your Bad Mood : bad moods aren't all bad

Self-Help List : a short list filled with lots and lots of wisdom

Feeling Stuck? : here are 7 must-read tips for getting out of a rut

 

Listening

Listen to this playlist on YouTube.
Finally on Spotify! Follow me!


"Coffee" — Sylvan Esso
"Alone" — Plasi
"Vices" — BOYBOY
"Into the Unknown" — Postcards from Mars
"On My Own" — Bear Mountain
"We Are the Love"— Sutherland
"Slow Down" — The New Coast
"Old Pine" — Ben Howard
"Awake at Night" — Lowes
"Silver and Gold" — WILD

 

Reading

Check out my reading list on GoodReads.
 

Bad Girls Throughout History:
100 Remarkable Women Who Changed the World*
Ann Shen

Mating for Life*
Marissa Stapley

The Nest*
Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney

The Vacationers*
Emma Straub

 

I write books too! Check it out...

The Positively Present Guide to Life*

Effortless Inspiration Series:
Gratitude, Living in the Moment, 
Compassion, and Forgiveness*

Stay Positive: Daily Reminders
from Positively Present*
 

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How to Reclaim Your Magic

 

Reclaim Your Magic

 

Yours is the light by which my spirit's born:
you are my sun, my moon, and all my stars.

e.e. cummings

 

Last week wasn't the first time I read those words, but it was the first time I thought about them in a different way. After reading them, I thought to myself, What if we talked about ourselves the way we talk about someone we're in love with? What if we wrote poems — and had thoughts — filled with that same admiration and adoration? 

 

It seems like a far-fetched notion (and perhaps a narcissistic one?), but I couldn't get the concept out of my head, particularly in relation to the e.e. cummings quote. What if, instead of seeking to revolve our lives around someone else (a partner, children, even a job that sometimes stands in for a love affair), we found all of that magic within ourselves? This isn't to say we couldn't — and wouldn't — find magic in other people or experiences, but imagine if that wasn't the focus, but instead the focus was to find that magic — the light we're drawn to in other people — in ourselves...

 

These ideas inspired me to create the illustration above, and also inspired me to think about what it would be like to reconnect with the magic that is within us. By "magic," I mean not the stuff of wizards and witches (though that's cool too), but the parts of you that are special, wonderful, and unique. By "magic," I mean the true essence of who you were before the world told you who you "should" be. By "magic," I mean the parts of yourself that fill you with such wonder that you feel you could spend ages exploring them. By "magic," I mean the parts of yourself that scare you a little bit because maybe they are "weird" or uncommon or mysterious. 

 

I've been spending a lot of time thinking about this concept, and it's inspired me in a lot of ways (more to come on that soon!). I thought it might inspire you too so I've come up with a handful of questions you might want to ponder to get in touch with your magic. 

 

 

What did you enjoy when you were a kid? Consider what you liked to spend your time doing when you were a kid and you may be surprised that you still enjoy similar things. Often the activities we enjoy during childhood are experiences we continue to take joy from throughout our whole lives. Give some thought to this question, and you may uncover a lot about the essence of who you are. 

 

What beliefs did you have in childhood? This might be a trickier one to figure out since it can be tougher to recall beliefs than actual activities, but here are some things to consider when trying to recall your beliefs. What made you angry as a child? What made you feel joyful? What's one of your best memories? Your worst? These questions will give you insight into what your values were. 

 

What is your most favorite thing to do now?  Getting in touch with your childhood self is important for reclaiming magic, but so too is connecting with who you are now. If you could spend a day doing only one thing, what would it be? Why? Does that activity make you feel a certain way? Try to pinpoint how it makes you feel and you'll find clues to your magic. 

 

What would your ideal day consist of? Looking more big picture, contemplate how you'd like to spend an ideal day. Consider the following: what you would do, who would be there, where you would be, what would you feel, etc. Even take note of little details like weather and what you'd wear. Exploring the idea of an ideal day can provide insight into what you value and love most. 

 

What would do you feel really good about? Connecting with your magic is all about reclaiming the best parts of yourself. Take a moment to think about what you're really good at, what qualities you consider to be your best traits, and any other positive aspects of yourself. Focusing your attention on your good points can help you see where you thrive (and where secret magic might be hidden!). 

 

 

Reclaiming your magic won't happen overnight, but if you start with these questions, you'll inspire yourself to do a little soul-searching, which will hopefully allow you to reconnect with the parts of yourself that are the most important to you. The more connected you feel to yourself and the more you focus on your magical qualities, the better your life becomes. Your relationship with yourself grows stronger and, as a result, your relationships with others will too. 

 

Want more inspiration for connecting with your most magical self? Check out the links below for books, workbooks, and products that'll inspire you to reclaim that magic! 

 

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Positively Present Picks : September 2, 2016

 

Thankful for Now
  

Quote-of-the-week

"Give more attention to what is right
in your life than what is wrong."

Unknown

 

Links-I-Love    

Autumn Obsession : who else is ready for autumn to begin?!

Color Your Soul : omggggg this subscription looks absolutely amazing

The Positively Present Guide to Life* : now in PAPERBACK! hooray! 

7 Clues You're in an Unhealthy Relationship : pay attention to these clues

August Favorites! : my latest YouTube video with my monthly favs

The Art of Tuning Out : tune out stress by tuning into nature

Autumn Leaves Decor* : this pretty arrangement makes me smile

What Story Are You Telling Yourself? : our stories make our lives

Back to School! : how to help kids (and yourself) form good habits

Clear Your Mind at the Office : love these Free People Life Hacks

Bad Girls Throughout History* : cannot wait for Ann Shen's book!

Why We Need to Stop Judging Our Feelings : it's ok (and good!) to feel

Emotional Progress : love these 5 things Gala Darling is working on!

Why I Stepped Off the Beaten Path : sometimes you gotta go your own way

Medallion Pendant Choker* : sooo obsessed with chokers right now 

Get More Done with Less Stress : 12 daily habits to consider taking up

How to Make Your Own Luck : and love your life while you're at it

Spend Time with the Right Peopleyou choose who you're around

Positive Changee : this overlooked factor is critical for making change

For Anyone Who's Ever Loved a Dog : dare you read this + not cry 

 

Listening

Listen to this playlist on YouTube.
Finally on Spotify! Follow me!


"Drugs" — Adam Jensen
"This Is What You Came For" — Sonna Rele
"Haux" — Sister
"White Knuckles" — Tegan and Sara
"Starving" — Hailee Steinfeld
"Ready"— Sondar
"Wish You Were Here" — Florence + the Machine
"Words" — Birdy
"Know the Feeling" — Halfnoice
"Needed Me" — Rihanna

 

Reading

Check out my reading list on GoodReads.
 

The Vacationers*
Emma Straub

The Desire Map: A Guide
to Creating Goals with Soul*
Danielle LaPorte 

Harry Potter & the Order
of the Phoenix*
J.K. Rowling 

 

I write books too! Check it out...

The Positively Present Guide to Life*
Dani DiPirro

Stay Positive: Daily Reminders
from Positively Present*
Dani DiPirro 

 

Links marked with asterisks are affiliate links. If you click on them and purchase something, I receive a commission. There is no additional cost to you if you use these links, and I will never share links for products I haven't or wouldn't purchase myself. For more information on affiliate links, please visit the Terms of Use page. 


SLT: 4 Steps for Using Song Lyrics as Therapy

 

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Last week, I posted the image below on my Instagram feed, and people seemed to really love the concept. It's one of my most popular posts -- and, though the concept is positive, the lyrics I wrote about aren't typical of what I usually share on Instagram (aka, not the most inspirational!).

 

Song Lyrics

 

The attention this photo received definitely piqued my interest so I thought I'd write about the process of what I like to call Song Lyric Therapy (or SLT, for short). Even though it's fairly obvious how it works -- find lyrics, write it down, reflect -- sometimes it's helpful to have all the steps in front of you to motivate you to actually do it. 

Music is an incredibly powerful force in my life, and lyrics in particular have always had a profound impact on me. For 20+ years I've been practicing SLT and it's pretty amazing. And it works no matter what emotional situation you're in. I've done it when I'm falling in love, when I'm going through a break-up, when I'm trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I've also combined with Quote Therapy, which follows the same general process, but instead of lyrics, you use quotes. Sometimes I even get crazy and combine the two, haha!

If you're a lyric lover like I am, here's how you can use SLT to get in touch with how you're feeling:

  

STEP 1:
COMPILE A PLAYLIST 

You might already have some songs that you're listening to on repeat, or you might want to create a special playlist just for your specific situation. I originally to made playlists in iTunes, focusing on specific situations, like: The Positive Breakup, Staying Sober, Single at Christmas, etc. I then started making my weekly playlists on YouTube so you guys could listen too, and now I've finally gotten Spotify and I'm making lots of themed playlists over there (some recent ones include: Autumn Woods, Be Here Now, Hang in There, Love Yourself, Positive Vibes, etc.). Where you create your playlist is up to you -- just make sure it's somewhere you can listen often and easily add songs if needed. 

 

STEP 2:
GET INTO THE GROOVE

This step is all about listening closely to the words. Listen to your playlist over and over again. Some people (like me!) are super lyric-focused and can't help but listen to the lyrics and try to apply it in some way to their own lives. But some people aren't as into lyrics and in this step they've gotta step up their listening game. There are no right or wrong lyrics to look for; the key is to pay attention to the words that speak to you, that give you a feeling of, Wow! that sounds just like what I'm experiencing right now! If you pay attention to songs you're drawn to, you'll realize that you love them so much because you relate to them in some way.  

 

STEP 3:
WRITE THE WORDS

After listening to your playlist frequently, it's time to document those words. I prefer to handwrite the lyrics and add color, doodles, etc. to make the process a bit more fun, but you can write yours in an form you like: in a notebook, on your computer, in a note-taking app on your phone. Whatever method is easiest and most inspiring for you, do that. As you're listening to the songs, aim to pinpoint one or two lines from that song that really speak to you. While you can write down huge chunks of a song (or the whole thing!), I've found it most useful to really narrow my focus to one or two lines so that I can go deeper on those in Step 4. 

 

STEP 4:
MAKE TIME TO REFLECT

After writing down your lyrics, set them aside for a bit before coming back and re-reading them. You can highlight words that really speak to you (as I did above). As I'm reviewing the lyrics, I ask myself, Why did this line resonate with me? What about these words makes me feel something? What does this particular phrase say about how I'm feeling? Sometimes I just answer these internally and reflect on them, and sometimes I write down my replies. Either way, reflecting on the lyrics provides not only better understanding of the situation, but also of how you feel about the situation. And knowing your feelings is key to choosing how you think, act, and react. 

 

I've been using SLT for as long as I can remember, and I find it incredibly useful. If you're looking to do some soul-searching, if you're feeling uncertain about some aspect of your life, or if you're just curious about connecting with your feelings, I highly recommend giving this a try!

 

Want me to make a playlist for your situation?
Leave me a comment below or send me an email,
and I'll create a Spotify playlist for you!  

 

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Positively Present Picks : August 26, 2016

 

Moon

 

Quote-of-the-week

"The truth is rarely pure and never simple."

Oscar Wilde

 

Links-I-Love    
It's Virgo Season! : here's how to make the most of this season

100 Most Inspiring Self-Development Blogs : honored to be included :)

Feng Shui for Creativity : 10 ways to get creatively inspired

Why We Shouldn't Force Advice : and what actually helps instead

OPI Washington DC Collection* : got this for my b-day + I'm obsessed!

5 mins. 5 hours. 5 days. 5 years. a lifetime : connection is everything

Try to Stay Here if You Can : what an simply inspiring little story

Blue Q Socks* : I got this pair as a gift + love the design so much

My Life Belongs to Me : wise words from George Bernard Shaw

Your Brain Has a Delete Button : here's how you can use it

Dog Moms + Dads : every dog parent needs one of these pins

One Sketch a Day* : really hoping to get back into this again

Comparing Yourself to Others? : ask yourself this question first

Ask What's Strong, Not What's Wrong : such a positive perspective 

 

Listening

Listen to this playlist on YouTube.
Finally on Spotify! Follow me!

"Fade Out" — Tegan and Sara
"Wildwood" — Fleurie
"Tag You're It" — Melanie Martinez
"Low" — TRACE
"Gone" — Michl
"Tell Me"— Capitale
"Out of Mind" — Tove Lo
"I Need a Forest Fire" — James Blake
"Let's Be Still" — The Head + the Heart
"Madhouse" — Luna Aura

 

Reading

Check out my reading list on GoodReads.
 

Results May Vary*
Bethany Chase
 

Harry Potter & the Order
of the Phoenix*
J.K. Rowling 

 

I write books too! Check it out...

The Positively Present Guide to Life*
Dani DiPirro

Stay Positive: Daily Reminders
from Positively Present*
Dani DiPirro 

 

Links marked with asterisks are affiliate links. If you click on them and purchase something, I receive a commission. There is no additional cost to you if you use these links, and I will never share links for products I haven't or wouldn't purchase myself. For more information on affiliate links, please visit the Terms of Use page.